Men, MCPs and me.

‘I hate shopping’, I tell someone, and he is clearly surprised. Well, I had expected him to be happy, too, but it seems to be more like a deflation of his ego. Oh yeah, after all, he has just lost one of his points he can rant against girls, to me: girls love and spend helluva lot of time shopping.
So what’s with all these generalisations, anyway? Women cry easily, want to be pampered, love shopping, blah blah. Come off it, men, there is an equally long list I can give about what you could do. And all you’ll say is at least you don’t spend so much time checking stuff in a shop out. What rubbish! I have seen cousin brothers and uncles getting lost in a shop filled with electronic gadgets. And talking for hours on the latest computer monitor, car or cell phone model. We all have things to talk about. So next time, if you happen to make such a comment, I just wish the woman around you knows enough to counter. We’re not thinking of starting a fight here, but just to teach you how different genders are made differently, and you better recognize it and respond better or just shut up.
And oh, about how women cry. Ugh. Like men don’t. Men just have a huge complex around them to express their emotions, it’s like ‘being a woman’ if he cries. And that every woman is extremely sensitive and is weak-hearted. I agree, there are many women who are like that, crying for every other thing every other day, for even I would get so irritated as to slap them, asking them to shut up and be strong. But what’s with the thing that all women cry and everyone who cries is a woman? Just chauvinistic attitude! I would say such men are just weak enough to admit they want to cry or cried.
For all the talk most of the Indian men make, I must say they are some of the most disrespectful of the limited lot I have seen. Guys in Singapore have so much chivalry, it leaves me surprised. They treat girls so well, you know, like opening doors before girls get to them, let you go in the queue before them, basically extremely well-behaved. And Indian guys? They run out even before you could get to the door. I’m sure I can expect talk from them saying they have respect within and so on. Gibberish. I don’t want to be pampered like a 17th century lady, but just expect some basic courtesy. Indian men could be totally disrespectful when they talk of women, they could even lack the basic courtesy they should extend to another person who lives on the same ground as them. This is what I mean, which is there to some extent in Singaporean men, and hard to find in Indian guys (not that I’ve done an entire case study of men around the world; it’s just a general observation). The basic respect to women.
So why am I saying all this? Not because I’m jobless; I’ve wanted to write this for long, but just found the time. Not because I’m a feminist, don’t get me started on that. I just wish I could see and hear lesser of such talk from men, more so on my blog. There was this one guy who read my story on a little boy who cried, and goes on to tell me in my comment box: ‘You were learning to be a woman’ and gave a whole list of how the ‘I’ in the story was learning to be a woman. That ‘she’ cried, that ‘she’ screamed, tried to fight someone off, and so on. If it weren’t for social courtesy I have to maintain, I would have torn the guy apart with words. Not only has he read the story without any care, not only hasn’t he realised it’s about a boy and not a girl, he has the cheek to tell me all that in the comment box. Of a girl. Fine, of course he has the right to tell me his interpretation, but it’s the way it has been presented that can be so irritating.
Please don’t give any male chauvinistic comments anywhere, not only my blog, but anyone’s. Show some basic courtesy to the women who do so much in life to keep you happy, to please you. And don’t expect me to be nice if I find any such comment in my blog.